So Many Years And Now You're Gone

When you have been in a relationship for a number of years, seeing your significant other and speaking to them and spending time with them has become like breathing it. You know you will see them, you don't have to wonder if you are going to see them again. You know what you will be dealing with. You become acclimated to a certain situation that you subconsciously take for granted as always being there and always going to be there. If you have been craving your freedom from this relationship, you might have had daydreams about what life would be like without them, but daydreams are only moments in time. When you actually go home from work and there is no one there. When you actually have to cook for one less person. When something exciting or extreme happens and it is not an option to call the person to tell about it that you have been calling to tell about every extreme detail for years and years.. These moments are when it really hits you. When you go out to eat with friends and they are still together with their significant others and are talking about their experiences and you no longer have current experiences to share, it will shake you up a little bit.or make you thankful.but for a certainty, your entire life will and must change at this point and this includes your perspective on many, many details.

What if you didn't want the relationship to end? You must accept its end, at least for now. You should consider this a period of time where you are being tested as to whether or not you can take care of yourself. Whether you are too dependant. Whether or not you are self-reliant. What about all of those things that you've always said you wanted to do? Now is the time that you do them. Your mate's absence has afforded you all kinds of new opportunities. You must focus on these. If it makes you feel better to believe they will be coming back to you in the future, then that is fine, but do not dwell on it and take this time to prove yourself to yourself.

Give yourself at least 6 months to get yourself together. If they love you and want to come back to you and be with you, waiting a few months, after all of these years of being together, is not too much to ask. They need to take care of themselves as well and you will both be better off for it in the end.

Whether you wanted this or didn't want this relationship to end, it is still going to hurt and it is still going to change your life in all kinds of little ways, if not dramatic, large ways as well.

Just remember that there is life out there and give yourself the chance to taste it. Life that you alone can live and life that does not require any kind of dating experience. Give yourself the chance to become a deeper individual and let your wisdom and peace grow.

By Alicia Crowder